“You're engaged?! How did your fiance propose?! Tell me all about your wedding!” Pretty typical questions for engaged couples right? Well, let's put a twist on that and ask couples that are already happily married! Getting to know couples and hearing their love stories is my favorite part of wedding planning, so I'm bringing back a series we did on the blog years ago. Presenting Brides and Grooms in Bloom!! Find out the scoop on weddings and marriage from rad couples who know from experience.
I couldn't think of anyone better to start this new series with than the lovely, wonderful, powerhouse couple that is Melissa + Tyler. Seriously, these people are the most genuine, caring, fun people you could know. Melissa and Tyler are part of the Life Design family (we helped plan their wedding!), but I am also lucky enough to call them friends. Their awesomeness is never ending!
Couple Names :: Melissa and Tyler
Children’s Names and Ages :: Bailey (2) and Dempsey (6 months)
Date Married :: 04/25/09
Years Married :: 6
Ceremony & Reception Location :: Private residence in PV
Total amount of Guests :: 230
Q :: How did you two meet?
M :: In college! Tyler and I had a class together and he noticed me long before I noticed him. One day, he got up the courage and asked me to brunch. Brunch happens to be my favorite meal. If he had asked me to coffee, or dinner, or a drink, I’m not sure that we’d be here today. But brunch!?! I was all in!
Q :: What do your remember most about when your spouse proposed?
M :: He botched it! Oh it was so cute. It was on Christmas morning, and we were sitting on the floor of our little house opening presents. I was in my PJs, hair all askew, no makeup… After all the gifts were open, he quietly snuck away to the bedroom and then came to rejoin me on the floor. As he was sitting down, this red ring box popped out from behind him and rolled across the floor! I guess his pajamas didn’t have any pockets, so he had stuck the box in the waistband of his pants. As he sat down, it popped out and rolled (in what seemed like slow motion) across the floor. I asked him what it was. He turned all red and flustered and essentially shoved the box in my direction and stammered, “Will you marry me?” He said later that he had a whole romantic thing planned, but it all fell apart for the lack of pockets! I, of course, said YES!
Q :: What was your favorite part of planning the wedding?
M :: Oh man! This is hard. I think my favorite part was figuring out all of the fun experiences and treasures that we could give our guests. I wanted the wedding to be a shower of excitement and neat stuff to take home for those who attended. So, I loved putting together the candy table and all of the favors, and finding ways to provide novel, fun experiences like a caricature artist, s’mores pit, and sundae station.
Q :: What was your least favorite part of the planning?
M :: Making sure that both sets of parents were happy and on board. Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE our parents and completely respect their opinions. But it was a hard line sometimes between “It’s our wedding!” and “I’m paying for it!” We learned to pick our battles, and eventually found some middle ground so that everyone was happy. Our wedding was very non-traditional, so there was a bunch of compromises to be made.
Q :: What was the most memorable piece of your wedding?
M :: So, for Ty and me, our wedding went by in a flash! My memory is a jumble of colors and hugs and music and love. So, I’m going to let my husband answer this one:
T :: I feel like I remember everything important. Getting ready with my closest friends and family, standing on that stage with my beautiful wife. I remember the feeling that, even though over two hundred pairs of eyes were watching us, I felt like we were the only two people there. While I might not remember every specific thing, I remember the whirlwind that was pictures, food and dancing. It was a phenomenal night because of the fact that, even though it was my party, I didn’t have to do any work.
M :: How cute is that! I also polled some guests who were there 6 years ago. Most mentioned the band, The Groove Merchants. They were great! Most people remembered the black and white checkered dance floor, the bags of loot that they took home, and the wild and crazy colors. Most also remember the penguins. You heard that correctly- the penguins. So many penguins.
Q :: If you could change one thing from your wedding experience, what would it be?
T :: OK, this is going to sound awful. I think we would have done away with the extended family photos that were taken during the reception. We took 90% of our photos before the ceremony, but we still had to take those others during the reception. It took a bunch of time, and we wish that we could have spent that time enjoying our party and guests. We have never used those photos for anything, and would have rather had action shots and candids of our family having fun rather than posed family photos.
Q :: What do you like best about being married?
M :: Let me start by saying that marriage ROCKS. I love being married. I love having someone to laugh with, to share burdens, to work together as a cohesive team. I love the idea of “sharing my life,” first with my husband and then with our children. Yes, it’s work. But the best, most rewarding, amazing work. And I don’t want to live a day without it.
Q :: To newly engaged couples, what is one piece of advice you would give to them?
M :: The most important part of your wedding day is your wedding. Your spouse. At the end of the day, you get to marry your love and spend the rest of your lives together. Everything else is just frosting and glitter. Fun things and fun memories. Plan your amazing wedding. Get that perfect dress. Taste all the cakes and choose the perfect songs. But if something doesn’t go perfectly, don’t stress. This day should be fun and a celebration of the two of you! And it’s really about the love that you share with that one, special person. No one will remember that you served shrimp instead of scallops, or that you lost your hairpiece, or that you had a zit. Relax and focus on the beginning of something AMAZING! We got married outside in April. I was asked many, many times, “What will you do if it rains?” My answer was always the same. “I will marry that man in the rain. And I will be the happiest, luckiest girl.”
Q :: What’s your one piece of advice to newlyweds?
M :: Remember that even though the wedding is over, this is just the beginning. Enjoy every crazy minute, and don’t forget to communicate like crazy! Talk, talk, talk!
T:: Never get so comfortable that you become complacent. Complacency is where little things fall apart. If I feel like I’m slipping, I watch the movie “The Break Up” with Jennifer Aniston and Vince Vaughn. It scares the crap out of me and gets my butt back in gear.
See? I told you they were full of awesomeness! A thousand thank yous to Melissa + Tyler for letting me share the memories of their special day.
If you are interested in showcasing your wedding day or know someone else that might, please feel free to email us for the questionnaire. We would love to hear your stories.
With all that Life has to offer,
Life Design Event Planning // Wedding Planner // Phoenix