I recently read a short note from Angelen VanDaele, the Publisher of The Wedding Chronicle based in Arizona and she hit a great point that many of us, including myself, are guilty of; RSVPing. She basically wrote (in so many words) that whether you can attend an event (that you receive an invitation to) you need to R.S.V.P. either if you can make it or not and not doing so is inconsiderate to the party thrower. Kudos to Angie for writing it because i agree with her and I know that many others do as well.
So let's refer back to the basics. What does RSVP mean? The term comes from the French expression "répondez s'il vous plaît", meaning "please respond". Unless the invitations states "regrets only" all guests that receive an invitation need to communicate if they will be attending or not. It is important for all parties big or small because it helps the host put together accurate menus and party needs for the appropriate amount of people and having guests that show up without a formal R.S.V.P. is just plain rude and unthoughtful.
I know from personal and client experience that tracking down the people that have showed no response with an array of phone calls and emails is very time consuming and could easily be avoided if everyone responded correctly. So...please...no matter if you can make it or not please R.S.V.P (on time).
Many thanks to Angie for opening up that can. :)